There are many instances where we hear other people tell us what we are and then assume that we are just as they described.
Starting at a very young age, many of us might have been called names, given labels, graded by our teachers, judged by our very own friends and loved ones.
You could have heard your own teacher tell you, in all honesty, that you would rather work
Or perhaps, even in your adult life working in a corporate job, your boss could have told you that your performance is mediocre and maybe you were fired.
It is particularly hard if the person giving you judgment is a respected authority – like your professor, your coach, your manager or even your own relatives. If you accept their label, then you completely stop improving yourself and float around waiting for fate to happen to you, blaming circumstances instead of striving to improve.
You should never treat your past negative events as a permanent definition of your life. However negative it may have been, if you made a mistake, learn from it and continue on. Mistakes are OK. The important thing is you learn the mistake. If you made a mistake, it only means you have tried. If you tried, rega
So, listen to constructive feedback from others but do not let their own judgements define the rest of your life. Go on, realize that it is a mistake and try again until you achieve your objective.
As Michael Jordan said, “If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.” Very true. The only judgment that should believe is your own voice — and that voice should say “I will continue to improve